How to Use the Four Tendencies to Work Towards Your Goals
I’ve put together 4 trainings using The Four Tendencies framework to coach each of the four types on exactly how you can build a unique system and keep habits.
Success with your goals is dependent on building a process of actionable, measurable habits that move you towards the goal.
But how can we build habits? And more importantly, how can we keep habits?
I often get questions from readers and clients like:
How can I stay motivated to stick to my habits?
How can I make myself work on my own goals?
Why can’t I finish the things I start, even though I want to?
I have to confess, while I empathise deeply, this has often puzzled me. Because I tend not to struggle with these things.
But then, I read The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin. WOW. Talk about a lightbulb moment. Everything I’d ever wondered about motivation and the myth of “self-discipline” became clear, and I haven’t been able to stop talking about the Four Tendencies since. In fact, I encourage all of my coaching clients to take the free quiz before we begin working together.
That way, we both have much more insight into what kind of personalised productivity strategy will work best for them.
The Four Tendencies for Responding to Expectations
You see, we are all wired differently when it comes to how we find motivation to meet expectations, both of ourselves (inner expectations) and of others (outer expectations). Many of us are what Rubin calls Obligers; about a quarter of us are Questioners, and a few of us are Upholders or Rebels.
Take the quiz here to find out if you're an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger or Rebel.
Each tendency has a very different way of responding to expectation, which means a success strategy for one type might provoke self-sabotage in another.
According to Rubin’s research, 58% of the population find it hard to meet inner expectations, such as working towards our own goals, without a specific strategy.
4 Trainings to Help You Build a Unique System and Keep Habits
So I’ve put together 4 trainings using The Four Tendencies framework to coach each of the four types on exactly how you can build a unique system and keep habits. You can decide to go through all 4 trainings, or just the one for your tendency – your choice.
In each training, I explore the basic elements of the profile, how to make the most of that profile’s strengths and weaknesses, and the specific strategies you can use to work on your own goals and habits so you can bring your vision to life.
You’ll get a clear, research-proven strategy on how to keep those vision commitments and follow through.
This Is How You’ll Succeed With Your Goals
Before jumping in on these trainings, you might want to get a headstart and take Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies quiz to find out if you’re an Obliger, Questioner, Upholder or Rebel when it comes to finding motivation and meeting expectations.
“People do not decide their futures, they decide their habits and their habits decide their futures.”
– F.M. Alexander, creator of The Alexander Technique
How to Succeed With Your Goals as an “Obliger”
About 45% of the population are "Obligers" – people who readily respond to others' expectations but have trouble following through on our own desires and goals.
Here's what I cover in the video:
Why Obligers make the world go round!
Obliger Strengths & Weaknesses
3 simple yet powerful strategies for building External Accountability into your business
Risks to watch out for if you're an Obliger
How to Succeed With Your Goals as an “Upholder”
The second-rarest tendency is "Upholder" – people who readily respond to others' expectations and their own desires and goals (inner expectations).
Here's what I cover in the video:
Why everyone is jealous of Upholders
Upholder Strengths & Weaknesses (yes, they have weaknesses too!)
Powerful strategies to maximise your chance of achieving your goals
What Upholders can learn from the other Tendencies
How to Succeed With Your Goals as a “Rebel”
The Rebel tendency is the rarest tendency – you can recognise a rebel because they struggle to meet others' expectations as well as their own.
Here's what I cover in the video:
Why no one understands Rebels
Rebel Strengths & Weaknesses
Fun and challenging strategies to maximise your chance of achieving your goals
Why as a rebel you must find a cause
How to Succeed With Your Goals as a “Questioner”
Questioners are people who readily respond to inner expectations but "question" all outer expectations.
Here's what I cover in the video:
My own personal experience of being a Questioner
Questioner Strengths & Weaknesses
Structured and sensible strategies to maximise your chance of achieving your goals
Why Questioners are the most likely to be conspiracy theorists
I’m Imogen, and as a Strategy Coach, I help entrepreneurial people build a structure and support system to decide your habits and your future.
If this is something you’re ready to get support with, book a free call with me today.
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